Archive | March 2012

Daughter’s Spirit Guide

My totems have all been very restrained with me. One of my most long term totems is the earth worm. They speak to me of the quite toil of honest, hard work. They speak to me of volunerability; of hot bright light; of cool mother earth; of the beauty in solitude. It was never through straight out words but of a shared feeling, if you will. I have had occasional moments in my life where a Spirit Guide felt compelled to actually speak to me. But those have been rare and mighty moments. So when my  daughter’s animal guide started speaking to her, it was a little bit outside my familiarity. I was very excited for her though. It was the  Black Panther. And she showed herself to my daughter as a young, strong, beautiful Panther Spirit. My daughter is eight. She started a new school and was very apprehensive about it. So, I really liked the idea of her being “protected” by this Spirit Guide. It seemed like a very good match-up. But after several months, their relationship kinda turned. The Black Panther did not seem to satisfied with being around my daughter it sounded more and more like she wanted to reside in my daughter. She was talking to my daughter to the point of distraction. And last month, she was my daughter’s greatest concern. I decided she (my daughter’s panther guide) had worn out her welcome.  So, just after my daughter had complained of her Spirit Guide, I led my daughter outside to our ritual space. I called the elements invoked our Deities and then asked for this Black Panther Spirit to be evoked from our home and my daughter’s presence until my daughter is 18. I expressed my gratitude in having watched over my daughter but that my daughter is too young to have a Spirit Guide so expressive and not recognizing her personal space. “Thank you and begone!” I had my daughter speak the words with me. Then I requested – and received – The Grandmother of her Spirit Guide the Black Panther to come in and watch over my daughter. And I specifically stated what role I needed her to play in my daughter’s life. That she would respect my daughter’s physical space. That she would be quiet, protective and ever present.

When I perform my daily devotional, I take time out to “see” my children and husband and ask for  them to be well looked after this day. When I “look” at them I see their animal Sprit Guides with them. Black Panther always sitting in the room with my eight year old. But with lots of space. Golden Monkey and baby Dragon with my five year old flying through the air and playing. White Stag guarding my husband’s cubicle while he works away. My eight year old has not complained about this Spirit Guide. She does ask after her old one and asks why I sent her away. I tell her it was because that Spirit Guide was too young for an eight year old. But when you are 18, she will come back to you.  Then you should both be old enough to work together. I wanted to share this experience after I read I wonderful blog this morning by Icward. If you have time it is a great post on Sprit Totems.



Goulash Soup    Pagan-Blog-Project for G Week of March 30

My first experience with Goulash Soup will forever be one of my fondest memories. My family and I were visiting friends of my husband, while staying in Germany. We went to his friend’s house for dinner. And there they gathered around a small but, roaring fire. Standing in the fire was a very large, black, kettle. It was hanging on a tri-stand. It was something. I had only seen its likeness in witch crafting pictures! And inside this overly-large, kettle was a bubbling brew of Goulash soup. The aroma of beef, garlic, onions, paprika was wonderful. And for the next two hours we all drank (beer of course) and took turns tasting and adding beer and spices to the rich bubbling broth. It was a magickal night. My little, five-year old fell in love with soups that night. We had to cut her off at 3 adult-size bowls!  The only other item that was served, warm bread and butter. Here is a recipe for Goulash soup.  Enjoy! 

Family Fun Make Lots of Money Spell

How and why does this spell work?

This spell is a really great manifestation spell. With the use of your children, they can cut through your usual filters that block really great manifestations. They are young and do not see why what they ask for shouldn’t come to pass (double negative I know).

Can we use this spell for something other than money?

Yes! In fact, when I cast this spell with my little ones I always state that mom, dad, kids, grandparents are All Really Happy and Very Healthy. So, this is also a healing spell. But you can add any request that you wish. “Picture Mom driving a new red car that fits everyone very nicely. We are all happy and safe and singing in our new car!”

Why do you use the word “Happy” in your spell and not a specific amount of money?

Well actually, when I perform/lead the spell I always say “Really, really happy!” I do not use the amount because children often can’t conceptualize money amounts.  And I find that if I ask for a specific amount of money I am only limiting the amount of money Spirit can give me. Why do that? This way it is open to Spirit. I also state the word “really happy” for the additional reason that I don’t want the money to come from a sad event.

When is a good time to perform this spell?

Anytime the moment hits you or before a big event such as when lay-off notices will be announced at work, before a job review, before a job interview. You get the idea.

You said to perform this spell during ritual or spontaneous play?

I have only ever done this spell work as spontaneous play and have achieved great results. The most important aspect is that you “buy in” to the spell work that you and your children are creating. If that needs to be during a full moon, after casting and calling quarters then that is when you should do it. If you feel that magick can happen anytime you and yours are together then spontaneous play might work great for you. It depends on you and your family’s comfort.

Is “Gold” important to use instead of money?

I use the wording of “gold,” “gold money” and/or “gold coins.” The word “gold” is important because it helps connect your child’s request to the Divine.  It is a simple but powerful way for children to connect and also it is easy for them to visualize the gold falling into your home. At least, that has been my experience.

You said to use this spell inside your home where your family gathers. Why not do it at the park or outside in our backyard under the moon?

Because, your home is sacred to you. Your home is sacred to your children too.  It is easy to visualize gold coming to you inside your home.  The visualization of  gold coming into your home it is yours. Its home and it is safe and protected. All of this is implied. Which makes it simple for the children to visualize. It is also a very fun visualization having gold rain into your home making everyone rich and happy! Really who couldn’t picture that and want it! It puts a smile on my face just thinking about it! And one more benefit to performing this spell inside your home is that compassionate spirits are (probably) in your home. They will most likely enjoy the fun and help to “spirit” things along.

Can I download your jpeg spell?

Absolutely. Enjoy and make it your own.

Experiences of a Psychopomp

In this day and age, we have come to understand that we are all unique in our psychic abilities. Unique as fingerprints. We each have a spectrum of psychic abilities: clairaudient, telepathic, healer, etc. We have a wide range of psychic talents that are combined to make us unique tools for our creator, our master weaver.  For myself, I have found that I may be used as a psychopomp.  I visit the underworld and crossroads to lend a helping hand.

There is not a whole lot of information on the web about Psychopomps.  So, I thought I would share some of my experiences with you.  In general, my psychopomp work is done in the “twilight” time. The space of time between awake and sleep. It is the time when my Spirit Guides freely communicate with me. Time has no meaning in the twilight and so “twilight” can last a week, 20 hours, 3 days, 21 minutes. Sometimes, when I “wake up” I know that I am still at work somewhere and not quite here. Those days are very rare. But they do happen. Most psychopomp work that I do is directed or overseen directly by my Spirit Guide. And on occasion, I am asked by a person’s guide. (a person in my definition is one who is alive and kicking with a physical body). I have a trusted network so when this happens, I understand that it is with the blessing of my Spirit guides. And I go and willingly help.

Helping the living:  Once, I “woke” in a family friend’s body as she was delivering her second child. I had known her since childhood. Her parents and mine were friends. In fact, our whole families had been good friends but, I had not seen her in years. I did not know she was expecting. But there I was in her body as she was laboring. She was in mortal danger and needed assistance. Her spirit and body were badly fatigued. So, while her sprit was resting and receiving help from her guides/Gods I presided in her body. In her body, I felt the support and love from family, friends, spirits. The physical pain for her body as she delivered was somewhat mitigated. I felt pain, but somehow it was shared amongst those sprits present. I stayed in her body, until the baby was delivered and the mother had healed enough to return to her body. A few days later, I called her sister, who I had remained in  contact with. She confirmed that her younger sister had delivered a beautiful baby girl after a very difficult delivery.  And the delivery took place around the same time frame of my experience.

Helping the dead: Sometimes, in my “twilight time” I will find myself walking on a white sand beach. On the beach, there will be a beautiful, gold row boat. I get in and the boat takes off into the waters. I am wearing a cloak and holding a lantern in one hand. I help people  out of the water and onto the boat. These people are spirits who are newly dead.  Those who have died unexpectly. They do not understand what has happened. They are confused and scared. Generally, they are too upset to really listen or communicate with their Spirit Guide.  And one tool the Spirit Guides have, is to lead them to a pyschopomp. So, the Spirit Guide (in this case) will point out the “lifeboat.” The sprit feeling “lost in an ocean of the Spirit World” then sees the lantern and lifeboat. This is very welcoming! The newly departed spirit  is so relieved to find help. I help them onto the boat then place a “blanket” around the Spirit.  They are then reintroduced to their Spirit Guide who usually has a cup of something warm for them. The two of them go aft. And now calm, the newly departed Spirit and their Spirit Guides are able to communicate fully. My work done.

Please note it is the Spirit Guide that points out the help. It is the Spirit Guide which requests the help. It is the Spirit Guide that leads them to where they need to be. This has almost always been my experience. I am sure there are different roles for psychopomps as there are different responsibilities for almost any line of work.  So, this seems to be my role as a Psychopomp, to help calm the Spirit and to work with their Spirit Guide and at their request.

Please check back on this post: I will periodically add to this post  as I share more of my psychopomp experiences. I will also gladly answer any question or comment to the best of my ability. A great site for more information on Psychopomps is

Erasing Parental Mistake Ritual

Erasing Parental Mistake Ritual is a very easy ritual. It is for all levels of witches. And can be done anywhere at anytime at any moon phase. The most important part of this ritual is to recognize when it is needed and for the ritual to be done as immediately as possible. It could also be called a preventative soul retrieval.

This is the history of its creation: I try very hard to be a good parent. I try very hard. I want my children to be raised in love and kindness. To become confident, independent, loving adults. And I wish I could tell you that I am always a good parent. But I have had moments that have been regrettable.And a few that have even been worse. There was a day, it was a nice day. We were at the library and started to run out of time. Needed to get in the car, needed to hurry up before traffic started, needed to stop off at the store or start dinner or some other thing. And the line at the library was long. It had not been moments ago but now it was long and we were at the end. When we got to the front, my daughter asked me something. I gave her an answer. And then she wanted something else. I can’t even remember what it was, it could have been that she could go back and get a different book, or if she could use the machine, or see my library card. But it was something normal that a six year old would ask. Something not deserving of the reply she got. Somehow instead of her mother answering her, it was more like a growl of a very angry, starving she bear. I am glad that I don’t really remember what I said. But it was nasty and mean spirited and I hated myself for it even as it was leaving my lips.  And my daughter was soulfully heartbroken. Her eyes grew big and her body a bit limp. And I cursed myself. I hated myself. And yet somewhere I was still mad and huffing and puffing and give her mean, nasty eyes. Until we got outside. On the way out to the car I thought how could I have said that? Am I even human? I want a Do-Over! So, we I asked my six year old. First, I told my little girl that I was very sorry. She did not have the mother that she should of in the library. And we need to re-enact the whole event. If that was OK with her. We could have gone back into the library. But instead we remained in the car. She said what she had said before and then I said what a good mother should have said at the time. My daughter was not sad any more from the “bad mother” event. She even smiled and it do-over soothed the inside of both of us. So, sadness lingered and the event was never brought up again because to her it had never happened. So, there was nothing for her to cling onto. It was if it had been erased.

Erasing Parental Mistake Ritual:

1. Recognize the bad parenting event

2. Admit that their “best” parent was not present

3. Ask  for A Do-Over. To your child,  “You know, I should have said/acted differently.  Can we have a do-over?”

4. Re-enact. Have the child re-enact what they did and said

5. Create an alternative ending.  Then you get to re-create your part. Tell them or act out what you should have done if their “best” parent had been there.

It is a preventative soul retrieval because you are mending the soul, virtually going back in time and sewing everything back together as it rips. Much better then carrying the guilt with you. Much better than the child carrying their sadness with them.  This ritual is not limited to mistakes that you have made or mistakes that are freshly made. You can re-enact in this way giving your child empowerment and healing on things others have done to him or her. Or from pains done long ago that resurface. 
This is just one more tool for your tool chest. The Erasing Parental Mistakes Ritual.

Question Asked. Can this ritual be done with adult children?

The answer is yes. It can be re-enacted even when the incident happened long ago. There are a number of different scenarios that this ritual can help workout. Here are some additional thoughts:

1. If your parent is willing to do the enactment with you great! Just do the above steps.

2. If your parent is unwilling or if it would be too difficult to ask then:

A. Go to your Sacred Space. (cast and call quarters if that is your tradition)

B. Recall the event that harmed you (Know that you are in your sacred space. You are safe.)

C. In this recall have your parent be there “best” parent. Have them say and do what they should have. If this parent was in general a bad or neglectful parent then in your re-enactment ritual have a responsible adult step in and protect you. A grandparent, the other parent. If none comes to mind then have your adult self step in. Have your adult self not allow this injury to take place. If the act was violent and not just through words have your adult self simply hold up a mirror to the parent. Have the parent see and know it was themselves they disliked and wanted to harm.

D. As you are visualizing feel yourself heal. Feel Green and gold loving light return to you.

E. Feel the piece of your childhood-self return to you. Welcome back home. Embrace yourself.

F. Sit in this space until you are ready to open circle.

* If you are having difficulty creating your better ending or visualizing, there is nothing wrong. You may want to try again. You may want to consult with a Shaman trained in Soul Retrieval  One place to consider for further guidance is The Foundation For Shamanic Studies